the grass is always greener on the other side
as it is
tactless
untactful
compare and despair
heterocentric
be careful what you wish for
underrespond
out of one's element
caught on the hop
ambition
oil and water don't mix
responsive
selfish
whereas
misfit
self-interest
nonreciprocally
be one's own worst enemy
inflexible
so be it
precarious
tough tuchus
coldheartedness
tough titty
hardheartedness
short end of the stick
where
heartlessness
unseemliness
tough cookies
sensitive
tough toodles
folie du doute
disbelief
per contra
willy-nilly
out of one's league
jar
consideration
self-interested
might as well
whistle past the graveyard
alternativity
comparison is the thief of joy
circumstantial
subjective
bystander effect
Podsnappery
unthoughtful
never meet your heroes
deviance
negativism
vainglory
out of character
ace up one's sleeve
rank outsider
envy
disagreeableness
countertendency
bizarro
in spite of oneself
sometimes
unknown quantity
what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander
hold up as
discrete
settle for
for one
more often than not
unaffectedness
innocent bystander
put oneself in someone's place
abnormal psychology
poor old
tenderness
counterdesire
snookered
out of one's depth
affectee
differentness
absence
sociopathic
take at advantage
differentiable
before one's eyes
push one's luck
hold hostage
take
admiral of the Swiss Navy
easy for you to say
hold the fort
horses for courses
proper
opposability
prejudice
apart
noncommittal
submit
self-abnegation